All parents are familiar with the problem of children’s nicknames and teasers, someone is faced with the fact that his child is insulting, and someone has a grown child calling his peers in the yard, regardless of adult remarks. In both cases, it is necessary to explain the rules of behavior when communicating with peers, because if your baby has become an object of ridicule and is shy of his nickname, then not far from the appearance of complexes that appear in adulthood.
Why are children calling
In the case when the child himself acts as an offender, giving nicknames to his friends, parents need to explain why he calls to call ugly and how this can affect the offender himself in the future. But before starting the conversation, parents should figure out for the main reason and find out why children call in a particular case.
Among the many reasons for the occurrence of offensive nicknames and teasers, 7 main ones can be distinguished:
An attempt to assert himself: in this case, the child calls on to feel stronger and better than others, on the one hand this is a manifestation of leadership qualities, on the other hand, the danger to the offender himself from childhood to acquire enemies, parents should explain that the child will not achieve recognition among peers with this behavior , but only push the guys.
Why are children calling
Self -identification or identification of differences: by the age of three years, the child begins to notice the differences between themselves and other children, naturally there is a need to verbally consolidate these differences, hence the nicknames “fat man”, “bespectacled”, “Dylda”. This is one of the most harmless causes of children’s names, parents need to explain that such nicknames can be offended by others, so such appeals are unacceptable.
Call for the game: in this case, teasing just an attempt to attract attention, often children, due to internal shyness, cannot directly express sympathy and call other guys into their game, so a new nickname is only the beginning of the game for them.
Simple joke: here the situation is similar to the previous one, though sometimes in addition to humor directed at a friend, the child is trying to amuse the nickname and others, which can be perceived by others not as a cheerful joke, but as an evil mockery.
Negative emotions in relation to another: negative statements addressed to another can be deliberately aimed at causing pain to another, the desire to offend, cause tears, in such situations this may turn out to be revenge, aggression, provocation. Parents need to find out primarily the reason for the hostility between the children, and explain that this problem cannot be solved in bad words, and after the essence of the conflict is clear, you need to work out in detail the peaceful solution of the children’s quarrel. The child, who in this case is aimed at verbal aggression, should try to ask a direct question to the offender – why he is angry, such complex psychological models to work out at home, play the situation, come up with specific phrases that the child can understand and learn, because in the future of such conflicts and mutual Hare is difficult to avoid.
Attraction: often children simply lack attention from adults or peers, so they are trying to attract it with their audacity and sharp statements. There can be one advice here: parents should think, and devote much more time to their child, including trying to expand the circle of his friendly connections.
Children’s philosophy: many guys grow very observant, they constantly compare animals with people, listen to adult conversations and accurately notice the details, and then reproduce this with children’s spontaneity when communicating with peers, considering new nicknames quite normal. That is why adults should pay more attention to their own statements and criticism in someone else’s address, and when communicating with children, to notice negative evaluative comparisons, and to explain that the “fat cow” is not just an animal, but offensive for other words that cannot be used that can be used.